Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are both 34 and have been dating for three years. "Sheri" does no... Knight in shining armor...

Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are both 34 and have been dating for three years. "Sheri" does not work and rarely gets up before 1 in the afternoon. She lives in a house that her family owns and receives child support from her ex-husband. She also has me to pay her bills. I am totally devoted to Sheri and love her son as my own.

The problem is for the past three years, I have been taken advantage of. My family and friends are sick of talking to me about Sheri. They think I am crazy for wanting to be with a woman who steps on me. Every time she hurts me, I swear I'll never go back, but I always do. It's like an addiction.

For example, several months ago, my grandfather died suddenly. Sheri refused to attend the funeral, and while I was at the service, she used my credit card to order $5,000 worth of clothes online. I forgave her. She said she wanted to get married, so I bought our wedding rings. The day after booking the hall, Sheri picked a fight.

Dear Hardheaded: You already know -- you like being needed, you can't admit you made a mistake, and underneath it all, you don't think you deserve better. You are enabling Sheri's manipulative behavior. You want to be her knight in shining armor. She sees you as an easy mark. Consider counseling to learn why you think so little of yourself and how to form healthier relationships. Good luck.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from "No Name, No State," the 14-year-old girl with the alcoholic mother. My divorced mother started drinking when I was 10. I grew up wondering if I would find her dead when I got home from school, and worrying what she might do to embarrass me in front of my friends (walking around naked in a drunken stupor was one of those things). I am so grateful for one of my mother's friends (a psychiatric nurse) who let me cry on her shoulder.

After 25 years of watching Mom drink, my siblings and I tried an intervention. Although she knew it meant she could no longer see her grandchildren, Mom refused help. One day, a few weeks after starting an antidepressant, she stopped drinking and never had another. I am grateful for the three sober years we had before she died.

I would like to encourage that girl to heed your advice and seek support, and also have Dad talk to Mom's physician. Lastly, I hope all adults will be kind and supportive to the children of known alcoholics. Their presence in a confused child's life could make a world of difference. -- R.A.S. in Tallahassee, Fla.

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