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I've been dating a gentleman for a couple months now and we've taken it to the next level and gotten physical. He has yet to have an orgasm and blames this on our use of condoms. He never suggests we stop using condoms, and I wouldn't consider that suggestion even if he did, but it does leave me wondering what could be going on. He says our sessions are good for him, but I can't honestly see how he can be satisfied with the action, but no conclusion. What should I do? Thanks!

Be careful with this guy. He never actually said the two of you should stop using the condoms, but he gently hinted at it - “Shoot. If I didn’t have to wear this tight ass condom I could bust one off.” His comment leaves me to believe that he may be used to (or prefer) raw ramming. Not good.

If you’re feeling dude, try this. Squeeze a small amount (2 or 3 drops) of WET lubricant into the condom before he puts it on; this way he will get a familiar sensation. Men like to get their pee pee’s wet and this lil trick is a raw sex simulator.

I'm currently dating a guy who has 6 children by three different women. He really takes care of me emotionally, etc. but I’m hesitant about dating a man with so many children and failed relationships. Am I right to be concerned? His reasons about failed past relationships were that the women were not his equal intellectually or otherwise. He's 38 and realizes the mistakes he has made. What should I do?

Yes you’re right to be concerned. First of all, he’s not taking responsibility for his part in alla this drama. The women may not have been his equal intellectually , (whatever) but that didn’t stop him from distributing hot beef injections all over town, now did it?

What do you want from this relationship, marriage? He didn’t marry them, why would he marry you? With six children, does his occupation afford him a large enough salary to take care of his kids and contribute to a household with you? Does he even take care of lil ray-ray and ‘nem?

If you’re just dating for fun, do the damn thing. Obviously ole boy got a great big piece of meat between his legs ‘cause he’s got you open. However, if you are looking for a serious relationship, a life partner, or a husband, you might want to keep looking.

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