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I am in a 7-month relationship with a very sincere, sweet guy, but I find myself having a lot of doubts. I am 25, working on my Ph.D., and I spend most of my time studying or spending one-on-one time with friends (all my age or older). I also have very little experience in relationships. He is a 25-year-old college student, plays a lot of online games and likes to go out all of the time with his friends -- whom I have little in common with -- or stay in watching TV and drinking/smoking pot. My boyfriend and I are very different, but I really enjoy spending time with him. Can our relationship really survive our differences?

This situation -- if we may digress for a moment -- reminds us of a college buddy. Smart, well-off, and yet a total slacker, just like the rest of us (except for the smart and well-off parts). We were all amazed when he started dating this brainy, buttoned-up law student who, while undeniably hot, looked upon the rest of us with barely disguised disdain. Then one day she dropped by our house after her work-study shift at a big law firm. She was wearing black heels, a sheer silk white blouse and a smartly tailored dark gray suit with a skirt that was deep into Ally McBeal territory -- so short it not only accentuated her long legs, it also . . . oh, wait a sec . . . that was the plot of ``Sorority Girls VII'' (caught it on Pay Per View last night). Ahem. Never mind, then.

Seriously though, we get the dilemma. It's the Julia Roberts/Lyle Lovett syndrome, only with roles reversed -- you're the smart one here. Which leads us to believe you think you already know what we're going to say.

So no, ultimately, it doesn't sound like the relationship can survive your differences. But that's not a negative, in this case. For now, the status quo seems to work just fine for both of you. He's happy with a shy, smart, rarely available girl, and you continue to be intrigued by a sweet, nerdy layabout who will, perhaps (and surely you intuit this), help you to lighten up a bit before you're off to conquer the world.

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